Raise your hand if you have absolutely no patience when it comes to waiting on anything. Be honest. It may not be a constant occurrence but it happens to all of us. We lose patience when we are waiting for our crush to text or snap us back, waiting for that long awaited vacation to be here, waiting for those pounds to shed after you have been busting your butt (even if you are only a week into your diet plan). My point is that we ALL, at some point, have forgotten what it is like to wait. We have forgotten how to enjoy the moments in the now because we get so wrapped up in asking the “when is this going to happen?” or the “why hasn’t this happened for me yet?” questions. I’m not saying you aren’t allowed to have that impatience, but don’t let the goodness of the things going on around you that moment slip by so quickly that you can’t enjoy them or even know that they happened.
I don’t want to come across as accusatory because I am just as guilty in this impatient game as anybody! Who can blame us though, really? I mean we have become accustomed to this instantaneous lifestyle that we aren’t raised, or trained may even be the applicable word here, to know how to wait. We expect everything we ask for or want to come to us instantly. Guilty plug, I am the worst at waiting to get something that I want (thank you online shopping) so I go ahead and buy it right then when I could wait to ask for my birthday or Christmas, or when my bank account won’t hate me after (oops - HA). And it’s not just the bigger things we can’t wait for now, it’s even the small stuff like waiting for my chicken minis to be ready in the drive thru line or getting a grade back on an exam or paper (oh, how I do not miss my college days). It is clear that our society rarely wants to work or wait for anything. Ever heard the phrase, “People want to work a half day’s work for a full day’s pay”? They are chasing that almighty dollar just to turn around and spend on whatever it is they have to have that second. Not everyone is this way but, it happens to the best of us if we are honest with ourselves.
Remember how I said don’t miss out on what is going on right now? That’s because, believe me or not, life can also happen and change in an instant. We never know what tomorrow or the next hour is going to bring. This past week my home was greeted by the ugly face of Hurricane Florence. Wanna talk about impatient? The waiting and the build up was the worst part. We didn’t know where she was going to go, what category she was going to build or die down to; we didn’t know anything. The worst part? Even the people who study these things didn’t know. Every hour brought a different prediction or a direction or category level. I say all this to build on my point that we should all live and prepare in the now because what we do in the now, prepares us for the upcoming.
Think of something you want right now…for me it would be to have that Chick Fil A meal and not gain the pounds. But on a real note, what is something that you are wanting right now? A new car, house, a boyfriend/girlfriend/spouse, etc. All of those things are valid things to want and they are great things too! However, sometimes the things we want in our lives, or the things we think we need, God doesn’t want us to have in our lives either at the time in which we want them or at all. I am not saying that you shouldn’t want those things or that you won’t ever achieve those things because you probably will! Think of it this way…that person you have a crush on and that you want so badly to date you and marry you and whatever may not be the person you need to be with. Take that as a blessing. I truly am a believer that there are certain things that you crave because God put that desire in your heart. I wrote about that before; God won’t put something in your heart that you desire if he doesn’t plan on fulfilling it. This leads to my next thing, sometimes we think that in order to get what we want/need that we need someone else to fulfill them or make them happen. I was in a place where I thought that the only way I was going to have a place of my own, a career, etc. was if I was married (to a guy that didn’t love me I might add). I thought that if I had the “picture perfect” marriage then I would have the “picture perfect” home, the “picture perfect” career, and the “picture perfect” life. Here is a hint, the phrase is “picture perfect” for a reason. A picture captures a moment in time; key word a MOMENT. That isn’t the always and that isn’t the reality for a lot of cases. You can choose your own destiny (shameless Brave quote). The only person that you need to “make things happen” is God. He fully equips and prepares all of us, especially when it is HIS timing, desire and plan for our lives. There is something about when things happen in my life that I know happened in his timing that just made them that much more enjoyable and appreciated. Did I like waiting? Absolutely not. Did I like the results that I got from the waiting and would I wait for it again? You betcha.
A little bit about me for those of you who don’t know me…I was a girl that on the outside had it together. A few years ago I was a girl that was graduating from a great university, had the fiance and was ready to go and kick booty in the real world and be a Mrs. with a job. HA - spoiler alert, none of that happened, except the graduating part. Remember, I told you that I thought I needed that fiance to amount to something and to get my dreams in this life. Well, it turns out that God wanted me to learn that I could take care of me and do it all on my own and, another spoiler alert, I did. I bought my first home at 23 and I got the career of my dreams after waiting 2 long years and dabbling in other careers before I got there. If the God I love, trust and believe in could do all that for me, why should I ever doubt that He won’t fulfill the other desires of my heart in the future? It all comes down to this. A friend of mine once told me that sometimes we are supposed to submit and accept to His season for us in the present before we can truly receive, appreciate and even comprehend his reasoning for making us wait.
It’s your life, but remember you didn’t get to where and who you are today overnight so don’t expect to be the person you want to be immediately tomorrow. Let that person grow and learn a little bit and I promise, it’ll be worth the wait.